I suffer from depression.

I’ll just get to the point. I suffer from depression. No, it’s not just a case of feeling sad or down because I’ve had a bad day. I can’t just “snap out of it.” It’s a feeling that is almost impossible to describe because there are different levels for different people. For me, though, it feels like a brick wall goes up inside my brain that keeps the happiness and positivity out. Throughout that entire time (which could be a day, a week, a month… even a year) my positive thoughts are doing everything they can to tear the brick wall down that’s dividing my feelings and emotions. The darkness takes over and blankets your mind with deepest dispair. It will not let go! I have a great life. A wife who loves me. Two insanely adorable boys. A house. A successful real estate career. It doesn’t matter. When a depression takes over, all of that goodness in the world that I’m blessed with is not enough. I’m not talking about depressed because your goldfish died. I’m talking the deepest feeling of heaviness, sadness and loneliness one can imagine without knowing the reason.

Depression (major depressive disorder or clinical depression) is a common but serious mood disorder. It causes severe symptoms that affect how you feel, think, and handle daily activities, such as sleeping, eating, or working. -National Institute of Mental Health

For a long time my depression went untreated and I just accepted the fact that maybe it’s just who I am. There were (and still are some) days when it pains me mentally to get out of bed because of the sad state my mind is at. But, as hard as it is, I have a family to support and a mortgage to pay. If any of you can relate, you know how heavy your head and body can feel when you’re depressed. 

We have control over certain things in our lives, and when we realize that we can decide how and when we want to TAKE that control, amazing things happen. As my real estate career began to take off even more-so than before, I had to come to terms with the fact that I needed to help myself. Especially now that I’ve left my mother’s team after a decade and run my own now. I needed to suck up my pride and stop pretending that I was fine when I was far from it. If I didn’t do it for me, I had to do it for my wife and children, and everyone else who was important to me.

Real estate is an industry that moves at the speed of light. The difference of five minutes can cost you a commission. One day can cost you millions in sales. We don’t have the luxury of letting obstacles like depression get in our way. Maybe you don’t relate to what I go through. Maybe the change you need that you’re able to take control over is right in front of you but you’re denying it as well. Stop waiting. Your pride is not worth your livelihood. Take the control you deserve and something incredible will happen. I promise you.

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nickbaldwinrealtor

Nick Baldwin has been in real estate since 2007 and focuses primarily on building relationships with clients and in the Bloomfield and Montclair NJ areas. He still practices Real Estate and has a team with his wife Anne Baldwin. Nick Baldwin teaches and speaks throughout the year at different events, to small groups and larger groups of up to 20,000 people. Nick teaches how to have a higher lead conversion through long-term follow-up and building deep relationships with clients. He also specializes in Facebook Marketing. Nick Baldwin has been married almost a decade and has two children, lives in New Jersey and loves to spend time with his family. He is co-founder of the largest closed Facebook Real Estate group in the United States. His favorite charity is a charity to help stop bullying, primarily cyber bullying. Nick Baldwin's Favorite Quote: Not everyone is meant to make a difference. But for me, the choice to lead an ordinary life is no longer an option.

7 comments

  • Nick
    I have a beloved family member who suffers from depression and I so appreciate your willingness to share. Not only do you help those also bearing this burden but you also help those of us who feel powerless to help and yes, at times, frustrated by this condition.
    Like you, I realize that being active and engaged in meaningful activities can really help get through a bout with depression but I also know how difficult it is to take those first steps in getting moving.
    Thank you again for sharing what I know is an arduous journey.

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  • Proud of you Nick, for so many things. Your honesty is refreshing. We can all learn from it. No alternative facts here, just the truth. And like they say … (and its true!) The truth will set you (and us) free.

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  • Kudos to you Nick for publicly acknowledging such a personal and daily struggle felt by so many. May your achievements and courage be rewarded as you carry on. I know you’ve definitely helped someone out there today by sharing your story.

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  • Nick, thank you for sharing. I too battle with seasonal depresión and I totally understand where you come from. It is was not easy for me to come to terms with it.
    It is inspiring to hear your story and I know there are so many people that goes through along and are afraid to speak up. Well done, keep up the good work!

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  • Thank you for your honesty. It helps me to understand some of the feelings I have. I love my career but there are times it is tuff for me to get out of bed a become functional. Thanks again and best off luck in the rest of your career.

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  • Nick- Thank you for your transperency and I congratulate you on your cander. I have a close loved one who is also a agent. He suffers from depression as well. It takes so much of his life and it’s tough for us, his family to deal with. Any advice to share on how you’ve overcome when the wall is just to hard to climb?
    His potential could be limitless, if he could get help when the darkness sets in.

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